Hey Nug,
I know on hotmail once you sign in to view your messages (from a PC) in the top right hand corner you can go into options/settings/acct settings (i dont know what the exact word is) and then from there you can click mobile settings and enable them from the email server. as I understood, you did that from the email server from your phone, so...
I was thinking that you could try to do it from your computer instead.
Hope this helps you!