Re: Teens and "Sexting"
budone
Legend

I guess as a parent I suggest if you feel there is an issue, TALK TO HER! Be up front, ask her to let you look at the phone. Dont go sneaking around to see what she MAY be doing. If an issue, then either limit her use or block texting totally or take her phone away. She'll survive. 

 

Verizon or any company is not a replacement to parenting.

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Re: Teens and "Sexting"
somegirl
Champion - Level 3

 


Patti0000 wrote:

I want to download my 12 year old's texts. Is there anyway to have the actual text downloaded or e-mailed? I go on her phone to read it but she deletes a lot of it.  I think that Verizon would have a program for the safety of our children.

I feel like we are war with technology and the children are winning. (or losing in the long run)


 

Tell her she is not allowed to delete the texts until you've seen them and if she does, have consequences. (Like taking the phone away.)

 

You can see who they are texting and when from the Main account. If the texts there don't match what is in her phone, then you know she's been deleting them. Simple as that.

 

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Re: Teens and "Sexting"
lalalamesss
Contributor - Level 1

Go buy her an old school pager until she can learn to manage a phone properly without showing off her body.  I wouldn't even think TWICE about my child "sexting" because the phone would be temporarily suspended and the hunt for a pager would ensue... she'd look real cool with one of those.

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Re: Teens and "Sexting"
Momoffour
Newbie

PLEASE, PLEASE take action.  I know someone who felt like they had no control.  They didn't want to be hated by their teenage daughter.  Their teen ended up on my space, became a lesbian and had very incriminating pictures up everywhere.  I believe unlimited exposure leads to experimentation and more serious problems.  Now they have a rebellious teen who does not respect them and literally does what she wants.  Not to say that this caused all her troubles, but had they taken action sooner, I strongly believe the outcome would have been different.  Please keep in mind, you were not put here to be your children's friend - you are the adult parent who needs to guide them and sometimes that means dealing with the temper tantrums and evil looks but they will thank you in the end.  The last thing you want is for your child to get hurt, or seriously embarrassed or humiliated, when you could have prevented it.  Trust me, later on, they will blame YOU for not getting involved when they look back and try to figure out where they went wrong.  I know it's hard to feel hated by your child, but just keep telling yourself, you are doing what it right for them.  ALso, talk to them to make them understand that you love them and give them the reasons for your decisions.  Whether they agree or not, your word is FINAL.  Do not be manipulated.   Put limits on phone usage, people she can call, or just tell her you have to take the texting away if you cannot control her.  If you have to, take the phone away completely.  GOOD LUCK.

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Re: Teens and "Sexting"
LeonardM
Enthusiast - Level 3

A Nice Video to assist parents to present the sexting topic to their children: http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/sexting-from-concern-to-action

 

 

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Re: Teens and "Sexting"
ncmcjm
Enthusiast - Level 2

We have rules for our 16 yr old.  When she first got her cellphone a year ago we didnt have any rules except that we would randomly check her phone.  That lead to finding things on it that shouldnt be.  That lead to rules that she didnt like and we have battled over the phone since.  She just recently got the phone back with rules and she is not allowed to erase txts and I do compare them to online.  We do check her phone too and make sure all the txts are appropriate.  We have picture messaging blocked since she has sent one bad picture of herself.  She doesnt understand why even after we explain it to her.  She doesnt understand why she isnt allowed to sext. Teens dont understand what can happen so we monitor it.  I want her to carry a phone so we can get a hold of her at all times and if she ends up in a bad situation she can get a hold of us.  Also she has numbers that are blocked so she isnt txting anyone we dont want her to.  We have talked to her about many things but sometimes it isnt enough and you have to really know what they are doing and who they are doing it with.  I have been told we are too strict and that iif they want to do somehting they will find a way.  That is fine I cant control her every second but these things will not happen where I can control them.  She knows how we feel about things and if she chooses to ignore she will have to deal with the consequences.

 

 

My 12yrold has a phone too but we check it sometimes.  I dont worry yet about him because he only txts me and his dad.  But when I feel like it is needed more supervision will be added to his phone too!

 

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Re: Teens and "Sexting"
Swine70
Enthusiast - Level 1
Never Talk to your children! Tell them what the rules are! if you are not telling them the rules they will believe that they are on the same level as you you. Your children are not your friends, they are your children and they should have a certain amount of fear of consequences if they screw up, you shouldn't be afraid to walk over and pick up the child's cell phone and start looking threw it.
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Re: Teens and "Sexting"
bosslady85
Specialist - Level 1

We currently have a policy set into place to protect our customers against this problem. If anyone every runs into this issue, please feel free to report the issue to us and send the appropriate information to this link www.CyberTipline.com. You may also setup usage control and content filters. For more information on Usage control, click here https://wbillpay.verizonwireless.com/vzw/nos/uc/uc_home.jsp

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