Husband and I are currently having the same issues with both of our iPhone 4's. We cant send/receive messages from one another but can send/receive messages from almost anyone else that's not iphone 4.
I'm sorry to hear you and your husband aren't getting the messages from one another. Let's find the issue and resolve it. Is the software up to date on both devices? When did this start? Are you sending iMessages?
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