Sgweaver, I want to make sure your iPhone is updated to iOS 6 so you can enjoy the new software? Are you updating via WiFi or iTunes? If iTunes, verify you have the most current version. What error message are you receiving? One thing that I see causing issues sometimes with the update is the amount of memory available. Try removing some apps that you don't need for the update. You can still re-install them afterwards.
Let me know if you need further assistance with the update.
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