No phone is perfect by any means. This is an ever evolving market and it's tough to get everything you want on one device. Don't buy into a device because of the hype. Make sure that it does what you want it to do. There's tons of information out there that list the advantages and disadvantages of each platform.
Blackberry's have always been the email kings, but most people don't need that kind of email power at their fingertips on a phone. And only Apple knows why they sometimes leave out certain things that for the life of you can't understand why. I will tell you one thing that motivates their decisions and that's battery life. I do know that dynamic widgets as available on Android phones and other similar items such as dynamic icon badges or blinking lights, etc. all use the processor and in turn, drain the battery quicker. Apple wants their products to have longggggg... battery life. And any feature that drains power usually isn't on their products or is disabled by default. As to whether or not this applies to your issues, I can't say.
I for one love the beauty, quality and stability of the iPhone. It just works! Other phones, I've had in the past don't even come close. And once we get iOS 4.3 (which I do believe we will get sooner rather than later), it will get even better.
