Bergybox, family locator is such a great monitoring tool for children. I understand why you wouldn't want them to know when they are being located. Due to privacy laws, we have to notify the user of that phone that they are being located. You can set the option to notify them without requiring their consent, but they still have to be alerted.
Let me know if you have further questions on Family Locator.
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