Utilize the 'search' function for this forum, as I've been noticing that a lot of threads that are asking about the same things, and really all it takes is a simple search to go and find your answers, as I can't answer them all.
On a sadder note, I've had to make the switch to AT&T, because no other provider (And believe me when I say that I've tested them all -- most stores hate me since I've done about two returns each) covers my area and where I love as well and as much as AT&T.
And so for the sake of work purposes, and the ability to go online, and to make calls I had to get a phone that was up to pace with today's standards, and that was a good phone. I'm sorry to say it, as it feel like I'm betraying all my friends here, but I got the iPhone 
To answer your questions:
Yes I'm miserable with this phone.
Yes I do tend to drag down the top thinking it's a notification pane.
Yes I miss my widgets.
Yes I miss the Market (The Android has better options to chose from, more that are entirely usefull).
And most of all, I miss my data being fully and realistically being pushed to me constantly. I hate that I have to open up another app to go and look at my tweets. I hate that I have to go into Facebook to see if someone commented me. I hate that there is no LED, no vibrating options whatsoever to let me know I recieve information.
This is where I feel the Iphone fails terribly at.
So that's why I haven't been posting over the past few days, I really feel like a hypocrite.
Good news though, my wife said that if I hated the phone enough, that she and I could switch so that I can go back to my MT3G and T-Mobile (Which she now has, as I couldn't bear to see it just laying collecting dust on my desk).
If you guys wish I won't post here anymore, because I have no desire to earn the title "Oh that guy who knows everything abotu android but owns an iPhone" guy.
Thanks for reading
-Mike